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Pro-choice leader Jennifer Frizzell endorses Pete Buttigieg for President

by John DiStaso – Jan 16, 2020 (WMUR.com, abridged)

On the heels of U.S. Rep. Annie Kuster’s endorsement of Pete Buttigieg for president, another pro-choice leader in the Granite State has also signed on with the former South Bend, Indiana, mayor.

Jennifer Frizzell, director of policy for the New Hampshire Women’s Foundation, called Buttigieg “a staunch ally to women and a leader who will accelerate our progress toward gender equality and reproductive justice.

“Pete has released a plan that boldly seeks to build enduring power for women and systematically breaks down the institutional barriers that reinforce gender discrimination,” Frizzell said. She also praised his plans on health care, the environment, the economy and other issues.

Pete Buttigieg has a plan to support America’s stressed-out mothers

by Heather Marcoux – Oct 24, 2019 (Mother.ly)

Research suggests American mothers are the most stressed out in the Western world. The women of this nation carry a heavy load, doing more than their fair share of unpaid labor and receiving less than their fair share for paid work.

But America’s women aren’t just more likely than men to be doing the childcare and the housework, they’re also more likely to vote. So it makes sense that those seeking the presidency recognize the issues the nation’s women are facing and address them, and this week presidential hopeful Pete Buttigieg did that, dropping his new “Women’s Agenda.”

He’s committing to closing the wage and wealth gaps, advancing women’s health, and ending the maternal mortality crisis. His plan for gender parity also includes “ratifying the Equal Rights Amendment to recognize women’s equal rights in the Constitution, appointing at least 50% women to the Cabinet and judiciary.”

It’s a bold plan that highlights just how far America currently is from achieving gender equality and how it could become a leader on this front. No country in the world is currently on target to meet the UN’s targets for gender equality. Buttigieg wants to change that and wants America to show the rest of the world how it can be done.

So how would Buttigieg do what he is proposing? His full plan is laid out on his website, but here are the bullet points:

Affordable childcare + paid leave

In his plan to close the wage and pay gaps Buttigieg states that he plans to eliminate “the trade-off between career and family with affordable child care and paid family leave.”

This is a good first step. We know America needs paid parental leave and that the cost of day care is almost as much as rent in some cities. Thanks to Motherly’s second annual State of Motherhood survey we know that 85% of moms don’t think society understands or supports motherhood and more than half of moms say they are discouraged and find it extremely challenging managing trade-offs between career and family.

We know that when American women have access to affordable childcare maternal workforce participation rates increase. After Washington, D.C. implemented free full-day preschool (which 90% of 4-year-olds and 70% of 3-year-olds attend) moms’ participation in the workforce went up by 10%, according to the Center for American Progress.

Affordable childcare is going to be key in any plan to close the wage gap in America and so is paid parental leave for mothers and fathers. If we want the “motherhood penalty” (which costs moms about $16,000 a year) to go away we have to create a culture where all parents are taking leave. To equalize paychecks we have to equalize parenting responsibilities and we can’t do that without paid family leave.

Buttigieg’s plan also proposes growing women-owned business through $50 million in capital and he’s also proposing “legislation to immediately make public the median pay gap, broken down by racial and ethnic groups, at every large company: for every dollar that the company pays to male employees as a whole, including salary and bonuses, how much does it pay to women employees?” This is similar to Britain’s Equality Act, which sees companies with more than 250 employees report their gender pay gap figures at the end of every financial year.

Advancing women’s health

America is facing a maternal health crisis and Buttigieg’s plan recognizes that, building on his previous plan to address the wider mental health crisis in the nation. He’s promising an affordable public health plan—”Medicare for All Who Want It.” Families would be able to opt into Buttigieg’s comprehensive public plan or stay on their employer-sponsored care.

And at a time when some states are making changes that limit access to abortion, Buttigieg’s plan promises to “ensure that women permanently have access to safe, affordable, and legal abortions by codifying the right into law to protect women from state-level interference.”

He also plans to reduce the closure of obstetric units through payment reforms and encourage medical providers to serve patients in rural and tribal areas by expanding and reforming the Public Service Loan Forgiveness Program and “diversify the health workforce and train our current health workforce to combat discrimination and bias–especially racial bias–when treating patients.”

Building safe + inclusive communities

Buttigieg’s plan to make American women safer includes addressing the intersection of gun ownership and domestic violence, ending the backlog of untested rape kits, passing the Equality Act to protect people from gender and sexual identity-based discrimination and reauthorizing the Violence Against Women Act, which allowed police to take guns from a woman’s abusive husband or partner but which expired earlier this year. Buttigieg would renew the act, protect it from future expiry and expand it to include not only spouses but also dating partners, thereby closing the so-called “boyfriend loophole” that allowed some abusive partners to retain their weapons.

Power + influence

In an op-ed for USA Today, Buttigieg explained how he plans to increase the power and influence of women in America.

“I am committed to ratifying the Equal Rights Amendment during my administration to formalize women’s legal equality. Because personnel is policy, I pledge to nominate at least 50% women to my Cabinet and to the judiciary. We’ll put gender equity at the forefront of our policies at home and abroad. We’ll pursue campaign finance reform that will make it easier for women to enter politics and create a more representative government. And we will push companies to increase transparency and make sure women and diverse leaders can rise to the top, because it is unacceptable that women make up 45% of workers at S&P 500 companies but just 5% of S&P 500 CEOs,” Buttigieg explains.

It’s a bold plan—and whether or not Buttigieg makes it to the White House it’s a plan worth talking about.

“A Post-Patriarchal Man”

The Obama/Buttigieg Difference: On the Refreshing Appeal of a Post-Patriarchal Man

Why so many Americans like what we see…and need it.

by Karin Swann – Nov 18, 2019 (Medium.com, severely abridged)

In the large pool of candidates for the democratic ticket in 2020, the once relatively unknown, Pete Buttigieg, continues to make a big splash. Early in 2019, few would have anticipated that “Mayor Pete” would now be the front runner in the Iowa polls.

Pete Buttigieg distinguishes himself in many ways — he’s the youngest candidate, an outside the beltway democrat from a red-state and, of course, he’s gay. People are impressed with his grounded rhetoric, and his down-home, reasoned and whip-smart common sense. Likened by more than a few to Barack Obama, Chris Cillizza writes: “Don’t look now, but (another) skinny kid with a funny name is turning heads in the presidential race.”

Like Obama, Buttigieg does have that remarkable ability to focus his sizable intelligence, (he’s a Rhodes scholar with a philosopher’s reflective interest in all-things-civic), on our complex political reality in readily, relatable ways. Also, like Obama, he has that unflappable capacity to sound reassuring with every answer he offers, coming off cool no matter the curveball.

But, I think there’s another reason why Buttigieg reassures us. Of all the candidates, he has something Obama had that’s essential to our future and yet that’s rare among men in leadership today. It’s what I would describe as a post-patriarchal masculinity.

It’s a mouthful of a word that admittedly sounds far too dusty and ‘academic’. But here’s my manual. We’ve gotta start somewhere!

I see this kind of new man, sometimes ironically in some of the older, quieter men I know who, worn down by the pressures placed on them over their lifetime, have grown in wisdom and found themselves able to see and appreciate the women in their lives, recognizing the value of relationship over single-minded focus on ambition and success. These men, sometimes in their seventies and older, however, have regrettably already taught their sons the wrong lessons. The lessons of their fathers.

Nonetheless, I also see evidence in younger, millennial, and even middle-aged men who have taken the journey to figure out who they really are, motivated by any myriad of life circumstances, including maybe having gay friends or maybe because they were encouraged by women, who aware of their own value, lovingly raised the bar for the men in their lives.

These men have found their way towards questioning the masculine identity they were raised to assume, they’ve wondered if all they are is the salary they bring in, if they’re more than their hipster cache, if their life purpose really lives in “success” and standing out as exceptional and above the rest, or simply in the muscle they wield or the number of women they’ve sexually conquered. They’ve wondered if the self-reliant, transactional approach to life they were raised to engage really reflects who they are or want to be. They’ve done this self-reflection — often, usefully, with other men — in much the same way many women and POC’s have done the inner work to transcend self-images internalized from the mainstream culture of their childhood.

In short, I feel like I know this kind of man when I meet him — he is a man open to his own becoming, he has an authenticity and reliability about him — he has weathered the storms inherent in questioning whether he is who he thought he was. And this is where Barack Obama and Pete Buttigieg come in. They are both men who have found reassuring ways to untie the gordian knot of patriarchal masculinity — a knot that left tied risks binding us to our current, disturbing fate.

But, getting more specific, what are some of the elements of what we might call post-patriarchal masculinity? To be clear, there’s no one type of post-patriarchal man, just like there’s no single feminist or prototype for a woman. Many intersecting factors that play a role in being more authentically gendered, but perhaps what we can say is that the work of unraveling a more self-reflective, self-aware sense of self is a process, not a destination. This may be the best place to start: The stamp of post-patriarchality (-; shows in a man who is committed to a process of self-reflection and growth. (Yes, that does mean a man who is willing and able to say “sorry” and “I made a mistake.”)

But this isn’t enough. A man who gazes at his navel does not a post-patriarchal revolution make. What, happens, though, when that self-reflection changes how a man acts, values and lives differently?

1.Partnership. Post-patriarchal men have come to understand the value of partnership over domination. Partnership means collaboration, mutual respect, the ability to negotiate and approach the world from the standpoint of relationship, recognizing that real power is what gets forged between people not through the stance of domination and control over them.

Renowned feminist writer, Riane Eisler, made partnership the cornerstone of her writing for good reason. It is the single most important ingredient for change that signals a shift from patriarchy’s defining, dominating practices. Partnership, when it shows up in leadership, means being able to hold the complexity of multiple points of view with confidence and sensitivity. It is the tension point that any leader today needs to effectively live in, and act from, in order to uphold democracy’s future in an ever-diversifying world. But how is the capacity for partnership (over a domineering approach to life) formed?

2. Shedding the skin of their ‘fathers’. To see beyond the familiar, self-reliant leadership of the patriarchal way, a man must be able to see daylight between himself and his (patriarchal) father. This doesn’t mean all claims to masculinity are tossed, but rather that a man looks at the relationship between him and his father with such honesty that it takes him down to his core. Such men have either chosen to, or their life circumstances have somehow forced them to, honestly grapple, then, with their own patriarchal inheritance.

This was clearly a deep thread influencing the development of Obama’s moral character, which he wrote about in his autobiography, (and was well-portrayed in the movie, Barry). Obama wrestled with his absent and aloof yet, as he eventually saw it, insecure father, and with the approach to authority and power he encountered in his step-father. It was also an emotional thread — an inquiry that required honesty and vulnerability, and, yes, tears, facing hard truths, and, in so doing, reconnecting with himself at a deeper level. Somehow, working through the impact these men had on him and his subsequent struggle to find out what kind of man he was, had a foundational impact on who Obama became as a man, a husband and a politician.

As a gay man, I would expect Buttigieg has come about his reflection on patriarchal masculinity differently. His father was a kind, humanitarian, Episcopalian academic, perhaps himself a post-patriarchal fore-runner who planted a seed for his son. (He recently passed away.) Instead, Buttigieg has lived in the liminal zone relegated for LGBTQI Americans whose life path has forced them into a confrontation with the patriarchal gender binary. That binary proscribes that men (superior) should look and act this way and women (inferior) should look and act this way, and only men and women should love and marry one another. This heteronormative binary is another cornerstone that lives at the core of patriarchy’s social engineering.

As an LGBTQ activist in an earlier chapter in my life, I’m familiar with the strength of character and courage it takes to weather the prevailing cultural winds of ‘normal’ gendered behavior. It’s impossible to choose a life path outside of patriarchy’s normal gendered mandates without developing a reflective awareness of its conditioning through often traumatizing, shame-invoking prescriptions for what is acceptable in ‘men’ and ‘women’. I do not know the details of Buttigieg’s ‘coming out’ journey but know that this step in one’s life requires a deep self-reckoning about one’s values, one’s loves and what one is willing to risk to be real. For many — let alone someone with a background in military culture, which Buttigieg has — coming out amounts to a deeply heartfelt awakening. Surviving it with any degree of happiness requires self-compassion.

Like racial stereotypes, gender stereotypes live in us as powerful restrictive mechanisms that once deeply witnessed, felt and personally overcome, can generate empathy with others who have been similarly on the receiving end of patriarchal oppression. Whether honestly reckoning with one’s real father, or with the authority of the rules of patriarchy, then, the daylight that can form is the crack of this reckoning is the space where compassion, for a different kind of man, can come in.

3.) Letting Go of The Master’s Tools. Getting space from the old father to become a newer, self-reflective man also means letting go of some of the worst of the master’s tools moving forward. Letting go means letting go, it means not getting tangled in the need to prove oneself to a competitor one no longer sees as worthy.

In a recent Politico interview Buttigieg shared this about Trump: “If we are in any way emulating this president, we’re already losing. Look, I’m comfortable hitting back when hit, I’m comfortable dealing with bullies, I’m comfortable dealing with incoming fire, but I also believe the moment we start making all our thinking about how we’re going to serve it up to President Trump, it gets us into a mindset where it’s almost as though he’s the one we’re trying to impress.” Buttigieg, like Obama, has a way of communicating that clarifies his confidence and vision, but it’s a confidence as a different kind of man who doesn’t get caught up fighting against an old order he clearly sees as empty.

That ability, when built into one’s character — to step in as needed but to elect to step out with clarity and confidence to focus on what really matters — is hard-won in the killing fields of Donald Trump. It exists only in those, I would suggest, who have honestly faced and survived the legacy of patriarchy full-on in themselves, those who’ve something true within themselves, a foundation they can count on where they no longer fear The Father’s rejection or feel they have anything to prove.

4. Respect for the ‘Feminine’. There was a time when the traditional patriarchal man was raised to respect the feminine. Then, there was a time when that patriarchal feminine was challenged by Betty Friedan and a second wave of feminism that exposed the stereotyping of women as weak, domesticated dependents. So, what do I mean by feminine here?

One way to answer this question is simply to look at all the things that the ‘last gasp of patriarchy’ himself seems to revile or, alternatively, feel so threatened by. They may as well be the signposts pointing to the essential, universal feminine long disavowed by patriarchy: qualities of vulnerability, compassion, empathy, and especially those that reflect our dependence on, and intrinsic connection to, the natural world. They are all things that define us as human and that Trump works so hard to deny in himself and diminish in others.

Related, I use this word here to refer not just to women, but to the qualities of life that become available to women and men when we recognize we live an inter-dependent existence, inter-connected, each unavoidably impacting the other, and, as such, all inherently vulnerable.

Barack Obama, a black American man who reckoned with his father and Pete Buttigieg, a gay man who reckoned with his sexuality in the face of homophobia both know what it is to be vulnerable. When someone develops the ability to be compassionate about being on the receiving end of a dominator hierarchy, a sympathetic resonance gets born, be it for other humans, for children, for animals, forest eco-systems, white factory workers or immigrant mothers fleeing violence.

Supporters of the Green New Deal, like Buttigieg, see systemic impacts, they get how this ‘feminine’ that needs respect is impacted in our communities, our bodies and on our planet, and by our continued refusal to pay attention to the great “No!” our climate is trying to communicate. This “No” is related to the “No” of the #MeToo Movement in that it demands sensitivity, respect and empathy for the experience of others. When we see this empathy in a man, not compassion that simply comforts but an empathy that drives action, perhaps then, we can say we have seen the post-patriarchal daylight.

Beyond “Post-Trump”: The Task of Creating a Post-Patriarchal Future.

In a recent interview, “Mayor Pete” shared that in this day and age, any platform that aims to “Make America Great Again” inherently includes a false promise. He understands that the world is changing, changing a lot, (one wildfire, hurricane and arctic blast at a time). Part of that change, also, is that patriarchy’s offer today of an identity for men is itself a false promise.

If there is any hope of uniting this country, of forging forward in a better America and, no less, a livable future sensitive to the needs of our planet, we need a new and viable version of, and for, (white) masculinity.

Among the many challenges we face, then, is the one that demands we don’t throw in the towel on the value of a good man. I believe many of us know a man like this when we see him — somehow something in us says “yes!” I think it’s why Buttigieg is leading in the Iowa polls.

I’m not endorsing Pete Buttigieg, but I’m really close, and what I can endorse, is the value of the man I see in him. If a man is going to take leadership in these times of peak-patriarchal backlash, let it be one of the men who’s created something new in himself against the strong, prevailing winds of patriarchal conditioning in his life. Someone who, on the other side of the ‘last gasp’ is going to step up with a refreshing new voice that sounds honest and true in that way-we-somehow-find-ourselves-trusting. A man with a voice that says in these perilous times, ‘It’s time for compassion, respect and partnership. Let’s get to work!’

[read in full at Medium.com]

Why Pete Buttigieg: Elevating Women













See also: Building Power: A Review of Pete’s Women Agenda